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Understanding the difference between visioning and visualizing.

I’m leading a new class this week called Vision Your Best Life: Uncover What’s Possible for 2021, and it dawned on me that you might not know what I mean when I say “Vision Your Best Life.”

You see, the spiritual practice of visioning is different from visualizing.

Visualizing is the process of creating a mental picture of what you’d like to experience.

With visualizing, you have a pre-set notion of what you’d like to accomplish, and you have an established idea of who you think you are and what you’re capable of.

Visualizing is great as a practice, but it can only go so far. …

Lessons from the oak tree and the reed

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One of my clients is a small business owner, and we spent some time reflecting on the past few months.

My client Jeff (not his real name) shared how many fellow business owners in his area of work had shut down their businesses. But Jeff found that his business was doing okay.

I asked him why he thought his business was still open and others were closed. Jeff responded by sharing with me a story.

A month or two into the lockdowns due to the pandemic, Jeff happened to run into one of his colleagues Mary.

Mary told Jeff that she was depressed. She spent most of her waking hours watching the news, feeling like her whole world was falling apart. She felt clueless about how to keep her business going in this new reality because everything she had been doing all these years was no longer working. She told her friend Jeff that she was thinking of closing up her shop for good. …

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Thanksgiving, gratitude and appreciation are powerful spiritual practices.

When we give thanks, we open our awareness to the many ways we live in a giving Universe.

We get to see the richness of Life that is always present.

And we allow our hearts to soften in humility to the grandness and infinite nature of all of Life itself.

At any moment, you can pause and open to an attitude and atmosphere of gratitude.

Even now, take a moment and ask, “What am I grateful for?”

Allow the gratitude to rise and notice your heart opening. …

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On the weekend before the 2020 U.S. elections, I had the opportunity to travel from my home in Los Angeles, California, to Phoenix, Arizona, located in the infamous Maricopa County we’ve been seeing on the news’ election maps.

The plan was to knock on doors to get out the vote for Joe Biden and Kamala Harris for President/Vice-President, and Mark Kelly for U.S. Senate.

As a spiritual life coach and teacher, I made clear my intention for this trip: to use the election experience to practice what I call “high consciousness” in the midst of worldly activity.

Especially in what appears to be a highly divisive country where people angrily denounce others, I sought to create an experience of calm and detachment, while still being purposeful. …

Your heart is always communicating with you. Are you listening?

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Recently, the late great Congressman John Lewis wrote an essay and requested that it be published in the New York Times on the day of his funeral.

In his letter, he urged all of us to “answer the highest calling of your heart and stand up for what you truly believe.”

What would you say is the highest calling of your heart?

For a lot of people, this is a pretty tough question.

That’s because most people aren’t asked to listen to their heart, much less its highest calling.

From the time you’re little, you’re usually told what you’re supposed to do, based on what everyone else is doing.

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Is there something in your heart that you’ve been wanting to do for the longest time, but for whatever reason you haven’t been able to do it?

For me, I had this brilliant idea and dream to write a book.

In my mind, it was going to be a best-seller! Thousands, maybe millions of people, from all over the world were going to buy it and love it.

But what happened is, year after year, I just didn’t do it.

I had so many different reasons that came up.

“Oh, I’m so busy. I have to work on this first.”

“I want it to look this particular way, so I’ll just wait until I have all the other pieces in place and lined up first.” …

Have you ever done something that you know probably isn’t the best thing for you to do?

The reasons you do it are one, because you like it and the enjoyment outweighs the cost, or two, because you can’t really imagine yourself doing anything other than doing this.

I bring this up because I see this often in some of the prospective coaching clients that I meet with.

Some tell me about how much they hate their work, or they really don’t like their boss or the people that they’re working with.

And yet, many continue to stay at their job because they have trouble imagining doing something else, or because the pay is good enough, so much so that they don’t want to let that go. …

A few years ago, I created a vision board, and I decided to put it on my bathroom wall.

One day, when I was stepping out of the shower, my eyes homed in on that vision board. In particular, I zoomed in on this one image of a cruise ship that I had pasted onto that board.

I remember thinking to myself, “Oh yeah, I put this cruise ship on there because I wanted to experience a cruise this year as part of my vision. …

I used to teach a class at my spiritual center called “The Power of Your Word.”

In the class, the students and I would have very provocative discussions about a particular kind of prayer called affirmative prayer. The students wondered why they would feel conviction and belief with some prayers, and others not.

Here’s what I would often tell them:

The power of your word isn’t so much about what you are praying for, or even who you are praying to, but where you are praying from.

“Where you are praying from” refers to your own inner state of being and what you truly believe. …

Today, I’d like to introduce a special guest, Avocado!

I first met Avocado this past December when my fiancé Richard, my mom and my sister Marie traveled to Singapore for a cruise.

While we were there, we stopped at a mall. In the middle of the hustle and bustle of the Christmas-shopping crowds, I spotted Avocado! Immediately, I fell in love.

Why is Avocado here as a guest today?

Well, last week, my dear friend and colleague, Shawn Shepheard, and I were leading a Zoom conversation for an organization on the topic of Building Resilience.

One of the questions we asked…


Joselito Laudencia

I’m a spiritual life coach at where I help people create a practical and joy-filled spiritual path to career and financial freedom.

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