The Spiritual Minute: The one homework assignment I give to new coaching clients

If you want to make a change in your life, you first have to know where you are, and then you have to decide where you want to go.

Joselito Laudencia
3 min readMay 5, 2022

When I meet with new coaching clients, we first do a deep dive into where they’re at in their lives.

We look at career, relationships, health, money and a few other life structures and areas.

It’s a great way to start because if you want to make changes to your life, you have to first recognize where you’re at.

Once you know where you are, your next step is to figure out where you want to go.

It’s just like using google maps on your smartphone or in your car. You have to input your destination.

That’s the essence of the first homework assignment I give to new coaching clients. I ask them to journal their answer to this question:

What kind of life do you want to live?

This might seem like an easy question, but I’ll tell you, I get quite a few emails in the days after while they do this assignment with questions and comments like:

  • Isn’t what I’m writing too pollyanna-ish?
  • Should I be writing something more realistic?
  • This is a lot harder than I realized.

For a lot of people, asking yourself what kind of life do you want to live is a very challenging question because we’re often not taught to live our lives on our own terms.

So here’s your coaching assignment for this week, if you decide to take it.

Ask yourself and journal on this question:

What kind of life do you want to live?

Another way to ask it is: If you could have your life just the way you want it, what would it look like? And what would it feel like?

Let go of any tendencies to think about HOW it’s going to happen.

Simply give yourself permission to dream, even if it feels pollyannish.

When you start to think about the HOW, or when you question if you’re not being realistic enough when you imagine your ideal life, you’re stopping yourself from dreaming.

You’re stopping yourself from entertaining new creative possibilities, some of which may be just waiting in the wings for you to say yes to them.

And, if you need any help and want to be in a supportive community space with other like-hearted individuals, I’m happy to share that I’ll be leading a workshop on this very topic next Saturday, May 14, 2022.

The title of my workshop is “Uncover Your Heart’s Highest Vision: What kind of life do you want to live?”

You can go to

You are the gatekeeper to your own dreams, and to you expressing the creative energy inside of you.

I invite you to lift the gate today and give yourself permission to open to the energy of possibility.

Abundant Blessings and Namaste.

A little about me…

My unique ability is helping people believe they can claim the driver’s seat of their lives. I do that by helping them figure out what’s really holding them back, get clear on their heart’s vision, and then fully supporting them in a safe and sacred space to bring that vision to reality.

I’m a spiritual life coach, and I also provide trainings and support for organizations and corporations on the topic of personal leadership. I’m also a newly published author of my book “The Creative Impulse: Answering the Highest Calling of Your Heart.”

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Joselito Laudencia

I’m a spiritual life coach at where I help people create a practical and joy-filled spiritual path to career and financial freedom.