You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with

Did you know that the people you surround yourself with affect your state of being?

It makes sense when you think about it.

The more that you hang around with people, of course you would pick up some of their energies and their ways of thinking.

And yet, many of us have these relationships in our lives and we never take the time to take stock of how those relationships actually affect us.

There’s a motivational speaker and author named Jim Rohn, and he famously said this quote:

“You are the average of the five people that you spend the most time with.”

Let me say that again.

“You are the average of the five people that you spend the most time with.”

Now, take a moment and think about who the five people are that you spend the most time with.

Think about your workplace, your loved ones, family members and friends.

Once you have those five people in mind, think about the characteristics of these people.

Are they the kind of people that lift you up? Do they cheer you on and inspire you to be your best self?

Or are they people that tend to criticize you or put you down? Do they wonder out loud why you do the things that you do with your life?

The point isn’t to purge anybody in your life, but to reflect and take stock of the environment and people that you surround yourself with.

Do the people you surround yourself with align with the vision of who you are called to be in this world?

And do those people help to support you towards that vision? Or do they detract you from that vision?

I’m not saying that you should get rid of anybody that detracts you from that vision, but what I am saying is that you can actively and consciously nurture those relationships that inspire you and cheer you on to be the best self that you can be.

And here’s a bonus tip that I’d like to give you.

Think about you, yourself, and how you are a friend or loved one to others.

In what way can you be the best support them and cheer them on to be their best selves?

Now that’s a question, and a practice, worth considering.

Abundant Blessings and Namaste.

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