“Happy new year! Happy new you!”
“What are your new year’s resolutions for the year?”
“Are you ready to crush it this year?”
In the first couple weeks of this new year, I’ve been inundated with emails and social media posts with these “get your life going or you’ll be missing out” messages.
The problem, though, was that I didn’t feel like I was ready to run out the gate. I wasn’t in a state of wanting to “crush it.”
In fact, I was feeling the opposite.
After having spent a few weeks on vacation in Asia this past December, I honestly was still in a quasi-state of vacation-mode.
But when I returned, the pressure was on all around me to get moving now, or else I would be left behind.
Have you ever felt pressured to do something, just because everyone around you was telling you that you had to do it?
It’s not a fun feeling, and sometimes it can bring up feelings of guilt or not being good enough.
So, what did I do with this pressure?
I took a breath, checked in with my heart and my body, and made a decision.
I decided to ease into the new year.
Ease, to me, meant allowing more spaciousness in my life.
Rather than rushing into anything new, just to do it, I would be a little bit more thoughtful and purposeful.
I took some time to ask bigger picture questions about what I want in my life that would “pull” me towards my vision, rather than “push” me towards what I thought I “should” be doing.
As Stephen Covey states in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, “We must never become too busy sawing to take time to sharpen the saw.”
In other words, if your saw isn’t feeling sharp and you’re not feeling productive, stop sawing and give some attention to the saw itself…you!
If you’re feeling pressure to be someone or do something that you’re not ready for just yet, I encourage you to give yourself permission to stop and take a breath.
Be open to the idea of easing into the new year. Breathe, and relax.
Here’s the paradox, though.
Ease and spaciousness aren’t useless and time-wasting qualities, as much as our society might want us to believe.
In truth, when you feel renewed and nourished, you actually have created fertile ground for inspiration and action.
When you feel stressed and anxious, you constrict your creativity and flow.
Where in your life can you allow more ease and spaciousness?
For your coaching assignment this week, contemplate one simple activity that would give you a greater sense of ease and self-nourishment.
You might cook in the kitchen, do a little gardening, read a fun book, meditate, or get a massage.
Simply pick one thing that you enjoy and go and do that.
Then, check your energy and see how you feel.
If you feel good and more at ease, then why not invite more of that good energy in the year?
Now that’s a way of being in the new year that I would definitely embrace.
Abundant Blessings and Namaste.
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