1 reason why people don’t achieve their goals

Why do some goals feel more challenging than others?

Perhaps you’ve experienced this scenario.

You set a goal for yourself. You start to make changes in your life. Maybe you create a set of habits that will help you to make progress towards your goal.

But then, after a couple weeks, maybe even a few days, it all starts to feel like one big chore.

When goals start to feel like a chore, the problem isn’t you.

The problem might be with the goal itself.

When I started out this year, I set an intention to exercise more and to lose some weight.

To fulfill my intention, I wrote down a goal to go to the gym three times a week, to take some classes and to lift some weights.

But as I looked at the goal, here was my response:


In other words, it didn’t feel exciting. I didn’t feel like it would motivate me to get up off the couch and get moving.

So I thought to myself, Okay, what motivates me?

I thought, I like doing things with other people. I like having a deadline of some sort.

Maybe I could run a race!

Last year, I had set a goal of running a 10K, which is roughly 6.2 miles.

I ended up running 2 of them…the Dodgers 10K run and the Turkey Trot 10K run!

I knew that running a 10K again would be in my comfort zone. But what would stretch me beyond my comfort zone?

An idea popped up in my head…what if I ran a half-marathon?

A marathon is 26.2 miles, so a half-marathon is 13.1 miles.

Can you imagine running 13.1 miles non-stop???

I looked on google and found that there was a half-marathon happening right in my neighborhood, exactly in 3 months.

So what did I do?

I signed up for the half-marathon!

For the last five weeks, I’ve been running three times a week and increasing my mileage.

Just yesterday, I ran 6.5 miles. Woohoo!

One of the reasons why goals might feel challenging to you is because the goal isn’t exciting enough for you.

Let’s play with this.

Think of something you want to achieve or experience this year. On a scale of 1–10, how exciting and juicy does this goal feel to you?

Unless you’re at a 10, see if you can imagine what you could do that would raise the number 1 or 2 spots.

Here’s an example.

Say you set a goal to travel this year. Ask yourself, if you could go somewhere where you’ve always wanted to go, where would you go? Then get more specific.

When you get to that destination, is there somewhere in particular you can imagine yourself?

A few years ago, I was making a vision board and set the goal of going to Europe. As I looked at magazine pictures of Europe that I had cut out, my dream of going to Europe seemed distant and far away.

But then I asked myself, where would I want to go that I hadn’t gone before?

I picked Paris, France, the city of love!

Then I got even more specific.

I imagined myself standing at the very top of the Eiffel Tower!

I found a magazine picture of the Eiffel Tower, cut it and pasted it right on to my vision board.

My whole body felt excited and I imagined the Paris wind across my face!

Within three months of setting that goal of going to Europe and then making it more juicy and specific, I found myself standing at the very top of the Eiffel Tower. And, even better, my mom was with me!

Are you ready to take your goals to the next level?

If so, here’s your coaching assignment for this week:

  • Think of one goal you would like to achieve or experience this year.
  • On a scale of 1–10, how exciting and juicy does this goal feel to you?
  • Now think of ways you can add even more excitement and juice to it. And keep on asking this question until you feel that excitement welling up inside of you.
  • Then take one small step to get you moving towards this goal.

Life is calling you forth, to experience its fullness and joy, as you.

What goal can you create today to invite more fullness and joy to express as you?

Abundant Blessings and Namaste.

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A little about me…

My unique ability is helping people feel excited about life and believe they can claim the driver’s seat of their lives. I do that by helping them figure out what’s really holding them back and fully supporting them in a safe and sacred space. I’ve been called the “Aha Whisperer.”

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